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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This type of gender balanced arrangement worked beautifully for thousands of years. No wonder there are so many broken homes today. Women are natural caregivers.

Devoting their lives to supporting their man, rearing the children, managing the the household is both honorable and sensible.

I am quite sure OP is very happy. Instead of being snarky and jealous are her healthy, feminine role, why not take a lesson. Respect the diversity of traditional values that she has represents.[/quote]

Lol! It worked well for thousands of years? For who? Take a look at Yemen and Saudi and you can peek back thousands of years and let us know how well that works for everyone.

The OPs relationship is not healthy. It is warped and so are you. Jealois? Hilarious! I'd rather be a spinster <b>alone with my cats than have the OPs life</b>. You can take that to the bank.[/quote]

You might just join their ranks one day if you can't distinguish between human rights violations in places like Yemen, and a healthy relationship defined by natural gender roles molded by generations of biological, social and evolutionary norms. 
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Sharia law=traditional gender roles, going back thousands of years.  It was never a human rights violation to own your wife and do what you please until very recently THANK YOU VERY MUCH TO THE MODERN WOMAN.

Don't worry about my marriage, we are doing just fine. I did not marry a cave man. And if said husband dies or loses his job, I'm capable enough to provide for myself and my kids. That is what being a natural caregiver and supportive wife is all about.
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If OP is in a traditional relationship, her DH has prepared for his death or disability through insurance, etc, because that's what a responsible, traditional MAN does.  She has already demonstrated she has the skills to manage the rest without him provided he has secured their financial future. Again, you diminish her role. Obviously, it wouldn't work for you. That's clear. But she is especially capable of seamlessly transitioning to a Single parent caregiver because she has focused her entire energies on doing just that.  [/quote]

Except you have to make a LOT of decisions in life, and it's hard for any married woman to "seamlessly transition" to making all the decisions herself if she's used to having a partner. Ask any widow--no matter how independent you were, it's hard to suddenly be completely responsible for everything. I imagine it's that much harder for a woman who has relied on her husband to make the decisions. I have to think that someone in this day and age who would seek out this type of marital arrangement is the kind of person who doesn't like making decisions or being accountable, and after avoiding responsibility for years, she will be in a lot of trouble if her husband dies (especially if he dies when the kids are still at home), even if she has enough money in the bank to support the family. It takes work to inform yourself about options, to formulate and defend an opinion, to stand up for yourself, and to make tough choices. A woman in a "submissive" marriage avoids doing that work. If something happened to her husband, the transition to productive, independent adulthood could be very tough on her and on the kids. [/quote]

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