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This post is interesting and I wonder if she is of Irish descent because my Mom for sure and to a degree my Dad, too, have never been that great at taking showers or bathing regularly for whatever reason.  Now they did have a large family of 8 and now, of course, it can attributed to being age related.  However, even 25 years ago, I recognized on visits to the summer house that it was an issue, and when they would come here, the shower would go untouched by either even if here a couple of nights.  It turns out my daughters also noticed.  I wondered more about my Dad who would go out and play golf and then not even necessarily shower.  But on the list of things in life, I never did say anything.  Once someone is older, forgetting to keep clean can be an early indication of dementia of varying types.  But I suspect it can also just be a lifelong habit.  Ohterwise, my folks were always dressed nicely, house taken care of etc.

So I think maybe you ought to consider your relationship with your Mom, especially if she is alone as you do not want her to stop visiting.  Maybe talk to your kids and just say shis older and you do not want to upset her.  Best tactic might be low key and to mention what the grandchildren have asked.  Now at age 92, my Mother does not quite remember to wash the outfits she has worn, but again in the realm of things you gotta choose what you focus on.
   
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