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What you, and the OP miss is how this impacts the second child if conceived after relentless nagging by the mother.  A child that the father never wanted. Sounds awesome. SOunds like you and the OP are very selfish. No thought whatsoever to the unborn child who might have a dad who never wanted him.[/quote]

Why is it you think that the husband's resentment at having another child is Oh So the Most Important Thing in the  Universe, but the wife's resentment at being forced into barrenness is just like a pimple - easily dismissed and unseemly to complain about? You want to talk about effect on the child? What about the effect on the first child,[b] who is being denied siblings and forced to grow into loneliness? [/b] I can just see the conversation ten years from now:

"Mommy, how come everyone has brothers and sisters and I don't?"

"Because daddy thought that would be too much responsibility so he forced mommy not to have any more children."[/quote]

This is truly offensive to all people who can have only one child or choose only one child. It's offensive to the children, too. It is offensive to call the childless "barren."
Is there anyone you managed to not offend with your ridiculous hyperbole?[/quote]
I don't especially care if I offended you.  If you choose to have one and only, you aren't denying him or her siblings. That's your design, because you don't think siblings are important enough to outweigh your reasons.  I did NOT choose to have one and only. I'm being forced into it. So yes, my child is being denied siblings.

I don't  care if you prefer to call yourself childless vs. barren.  I, personally, feel I am being forced into barrenness. [/quote]

Something tells me not having a child has nothing to do with responsibility and everything to do with the fact that you are a witch.[/quote]
I want to watch someone take away from you something for which you long with every fiber of your being.  Let's see how angelic your behavior will be.[/quote]

I have known women who have suffered infertility and have no children. I have know parents who have had children die in their arms. Perhaps a bit of perspective and gratitude would help you cope with the challenges you experience with your husband. [/quote]

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