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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]REPEAT POST:

It boils down to parenting styles, discipline techniques and social norms for different groups.

People have different styles of marriage, work ethic, personal and religious beliefs, and parenting. Why would how a parent raises their child be any different?

You may want your child to go Ivy - I may want a child to go HBCU. You may want a child to not have to pay for college, I may think working your way through school builds a work ethic that is much more valuable.

Spanking a child is a form of discipline. There are ways to do it effectively. Hitting a child, pushing, shoving and cursing at a child are forms of abuse and a lack of control, and it is illegal.

My mother spanked me occasionally, but my brother never flinched, so he was always disciplined with getting toys or rights taken away.

The point is, you can't suggest that all children will fit into a model of your experience, ever. There needs to be flexibility with parents.

Another point - I was taught that you punish with the rod, and love with your hands. We don't hit with hands, but a smack on the bottom with a ruler or a switch from the tree? Totally appropriate. It was always prefaced with an explanation of WHY the punishment was being given, it was never done in rage or anger, and afterwards, there was love, an understanding and we moved on.

I turned out fine, and see NOTHING wrong with that form of discipline.[/quote]

Oh, and I am AA by the way.[/quote]

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