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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Now it comes out!  Your issue is really that you don’t like the dynamic between your ILs, their attitudes and having to share your kitchen. Yeah, I’m sure I’d be annoyed by some of their attitudes but the meals are a non-issue.  They’re trying to work with you by bringing their own food.  Grow the fuck up or start ordering out!

Unless they have health reasons, it is extremely rude to bring food to someone else's house.  A lot more is going on.  Some people like to show control through food.  I am willing to bet your MIL or FIL or both are heavy. [/quote]

But which is more rude - a guest bringing their own food/cooking or a host who insists on providing food she knows a guest doesn't like?  Why doesn't OP (or OP's DH) learn how to cook what her FIL likes?  I'm sure her MIL would be happy to pass on knowledge of their family food traditions.[/quote]

And if you have 5 guests that all like different things, what then, cook 5 different dinners?  FIL needs to suck it up and be flexible when visiting.[/quote]

Puh-lease.  It's not 5 different guests.  The ILs have provided a solution to the problem.  If OP doesn't like it, she needs to provide a different one other than FIL just sucking it up. Talk about rude and controlling!  Eat my food or you get nothing!  She should be ashamed of herself. I feel sorry for her DH![/quote]

Well, not yet, but what about next time? My grandfather was this way- only liked very specific things and my grandmother accommodated him. For example, didn't like mozzarella cheese so when making lasagna he would get his own special lasagna without mozzarella.  I was like hey, I don't like ricotta- could you make me a special lasagna without ricotta? Little bro didn't like meat and asked for one without meat. My poor grandmother just didn't want to say no.  Luckilyfor her my mom discovered our requests and nipped it in the bud. :)

Obviously we can only take OP's word for it but it sounds like she makes a variety of things whereas FIL wants something very specific. That's rude- it's completely different from a dietary restriction like vegetarian, or even aversion to a few certain foods.  There's accommodating, and then there's batshit crazy.[/quote]

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