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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fits all of the above. I don't want to get into detail. We have two beautiful and smart daughters 6 and under. I often think of divorce, and I know nobody deserves this kind of life, but I can't imagine our daughters growing up in a broken family, can't imagine giving up on it, somewhat I still find enough in me to try, try, try. We've tried counseling and it helped while it lasted, though our work schedules make it impossible to schedule. The sessions were so sporadic. DH also stopped his individual therapy and dropped antidepressants, just because he wasn't disciplined. I married him, cause I was in love, in Catholic Church. I watched my parents 35 year marriage very tumultuous at times survive very rough patches. I somewhat believe I need to keep pulling through as well. Any words of wisdom and encouragement?[/quote]

Re-read ypu post OP. [b]You watched your parents rocky marriage growing up. As a rest you never learned what a good marriage is[/b]. You are repeating history. Your parents marriage was NOT emotionally healthy and damaged your perception of love and commitment to a mate.
Do you want your girls to grow up like you and marry an abusive man, just like mom because that is their normal?

Break the dysfunctional cycle. Your parents are a prime example of what not to do. Your parents marriage has given you no self worth.[/quote]

She didn't say that.  She said her parent's marriage was very tumultuous AT TIMES and that it survived rough patches.  Know any marriage that has never had rough patches?[/quote]

There are plenty of marriages where it is never so rocky that it gets detected by the kids.

My marriage. I can tell you for a FACT that after 15years we have never gone through tough times. We have never cursed at each other or wielded threats. As a matter of fact we never go to bed mad.

OP picked up her low self worth somewhere and it probably was from her mother. This is typical of people raised in oppressive religious homes.[/quote]

How often do you have sex?[/quote]

Probably 4xs a week.

If we go away on vacation alone together , as we did last week, daily.[/quote]

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