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[quote=Anonymous][quote]It's only been a day or two since you broke up with him, right? You can do this and so can he. Have the front desk refuse the flowers. Block him from your email acct. Do not pick up or accept his calls. Refuse to talk to him. If you need to take a couple of days off and go someplace for a few days to give this time to sink in to him. Do it. He should respect the fact that this is over. If he doesn't that is a problem and a worry. [/quote]

Exactly!  Of course he's trying to get you back.  Know anything about operant conditioning?  He's trying to get you to respond.  If you do respond (including accepting flowers), you will reinforce his behavior.  The next time you want to break up (and there will be a next time), he'll know what to do and will escalate his efforts until you respond.  It's the same principle of why you should never give in to a child's tantrums, you're reinforcing the behavior.  When a previously reinforced behavior is no longer reinforced with either positive or negative reinforcement, it leads to a decline (extinction) in that behavior.

Do not reinforce his behavior by responding![/quote]

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