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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, it's one thing to be respectful of someone's accomplishment/event/news. It's another to have to maintain silence and avoid sharing your own happy thoughts because of some silly notion of "stealing thunder".[/quote]

If you're genuinely happy for someone - you don't begrudge them their moment to shine.   And you are kind enough to step back and let them bask in the spotlight for a little while. That's the kind thing to do.

SIL could have announced a week or so earlier or later.  But she chose the day Op had her baby.  Only she knows why she did that, maybe she was planning to wait and just burst at the seams, sometimes that happens.  At any rate, another new baby in the family is very joyous news!

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Basking in the spotlight?  I have news for you: there is no spotlight.  There is no "Special Day" for adults.  Not everyone gets an episode of their own personal reality tv show focused on them.  If you crave the attention and approval of others so badly, that is a red flag that you have some work to do.  You just had a new baby?  Bask in the glow of your new baby, who, incidentally, doesn't give a crap that Auntie SIL is knocked up.[/quote]

Well, don't plan your party in my hospital room - 'kay?

Seriously, I have never been in this situation before but I can put myself in those shoes - and, yes, it would bug me. And, yes, I would make a mental note of it.  Sorry, I would.[/quote]

What are you talking about?  What party?  It I had a baby and my SIL was going to tell everyone she was pregnant, I think it would be a great time to tel since everyone would be together. Of course, I like my SIL. That is what this is really about. Not the pregnancy. [/quote]

THIS!  OP and her SIL have a rivalry - that is what this is about.

So to answer OP's question - IF I considered my SIL a rival and a competitor, then I guess I would be annoyed.

However, my SIL is one of my best friends, so I would sincerely be thrilled, especially since she is TTC.  [/quote]

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