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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bet the answer would depend on how old the kids are.  I assume there are probably lots of men who might wonder what their wives do all day, once the kids are in school full-time.  I know my guy friends have wondered this aloud to me.  But when the kids are really young, it's cool for the wives to be home with them.

it would probably also depend on the salary that's not being earned.  a $30K earner isn't going to have much impact on the family if the husband makes a lot, but a $100K salary could make a big difference.[/quote]

Nope. Not in this house.  I didn't stay at home until the older kids went to school.  One of my school-aged sons threw up this morning.  You can bet that my husband, away on business, doesn't want to deal with that.   It seems like there is always a snow day/ doctor's appt/ after school sports/illness, especially when you have three kids.

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Agree.  I am a SAHM of 4 school age kids.   While I am sure my husband would love the extra income, h[b]e literally wouldn't know how to handle things like snow days, needing to pick up the kids early if they got sick,[/b] etc.   He has always had me around to take care of that.[/quote]

I find that sad. Do you not?[/quote]

Not the pp, but I can give you my perspective.  I SAHM, dh is a physician in a specialized field.  While he would know how to pick up our kid from school or call in for a snow day, that would mean he may have to step out in the middle of a surgery or cancel your surgery in the morning or your follow up appt with just a little bit of notice.  He's booked months out in advance so you may not have another date scheduled for several months and if your the one lying on the table, cut open while he needs to leave to pick up his puking child from school, well I guess your out of luck then, huh??

Please don't be so judgmental about how and why families choose to have a SAHM.  While I know my dh would love it if I brought home an extra paycheck, he would love more to not be disturbed while he's caring for his patients and risk being sued for malpractice. I'm sure his patients appreciate his undivided attention as well.

I knew it would be hard being a wife to a him, I knew I would have to sacrifice my career and that is the choice I made.  I would not make 1/3 of his salary in my field so asking why I had to be the one to sacrifice my career instead of him is obvious.  We all have our own situations and circumstances.

Obviously the OP has intended to stir the pot and initiate yet another WAHM v/s SAHM debate on here.  Your beating a dead horse OP.

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