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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for the additional responses.

To the pp who feels she was similar to my DD as a kid I reallay appreicate the support.  It's hard to explain her to people if they don't know her.  She's not a complete social outcast as she is really outgoing and has friends, but there is just something different and a void it seems she has.  She'll state that she knows she's different but doesn't know why.  We don't tell her she's smart or show her the test scores, but she just knows she's different and it breaks my heart a little to see her struggling to understand why.  While homeschooling is not an option for us I can see how it could be a great option for her.  That's why I'm trying to at least find activities outside of school.  She uses Khan Academy on her own (I monitor progress) but I was hoping Mensa would be a more interactive activity.

Thanks for the recommednation on the foreign language.  Someone told me that Duolingo is a free language learning site but I haven't checked it out yet.

Her NNAT score was 149.  We didn't prep her or even tell her about the test.

To pp who stated that there are many gifted kids that are socially skilled, I agree.  DD isn't a complete outcast but I know she needs to work on these skills. However, it's hard to watch a teacher be understanding that Johnny still isn't reading well in 2nd grade and provide extra support for him while they just tell me they are[b] frustrated by my DD because she has a messy desk and doesn't want to transition to the next assignment because she wants to keep exploring the previous one.[/b][u]  The current teacher states she understands that DD excels intellectually but they can't move her any farther ahead or provide her with any additional resources in 2nd grade, but she can just be frustrating in the classroom.  It's not Johnny's fault he can't read well and I don't think it's my DD's fault for absorbing information quickly and wanting to move forward faster and deeper into subjects.

I'm not sure what the answer is but I can't just beat into her that she has to stop talking when the lesson is over and must keep her desk organized when I'm not there.  If you think the answer is punishment for these issues in a child like her I can tell you that it doesn't work.  She's generally a very rule abiding kid (particularly with safety), but she has a severe stubborn streak in her when it comes to learning/facts/concepts.  I don't want to crush her spirit and desire for learning simply because the school can't provide for her academic needs at this time.

I was hoping that finding another outlet for her would help her stop being so "frustrating" to the teacher.

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Shouldn't a teacher be frustrated if a child of your child's age isn't easily transitioning to the next task?  The teacher is teaching a whole class, not just your child.  There is a curriculum and time line in which it must be completed.  [/quote]

No, apparently this child's brilliance should largely excuse behavior that should be curtailed in preschool.  Quirky fine.  Behavioral issues, okay, can be dealt with.  Not listening repeatedly throughout the year when the teacher needs to move on, getting comments like "barely passing" a grade, etc. = not okay.  This is a child whom you are excusing for being rude to her teacher because she is 'stubborn'?  okayyyyyyyy[/quote]

Wow, a little harsh, but I don't expect everyone to be understanding.

If I didn't have a child like her I would feel the same way you do.  But this is not strictly a behavioral issue.  I run a fairly strict home in terms of responsibility and behavior/respect with my kids.  I've had several other parents that were in this same position that have told me they regret forcing them to "shut-up and color" when they had teachers that didn't meet them at their academic level and then complained about the resulting behavior.  The parents tried to force them to fit the mold and now the kids hate school.  I'm worried about that just as much as her behavior and social maturity.

The closest I can come to describing her is like the some of the characters on the Big Bang Theory.  While she not quite as clueless about her comments as these characters portray, she's along those lines when engaged in an academic subject.  The difference is when I point out that some of her comments can be taken as rude she gets upset and says she didn't know it was rude and wasn't trying to be rude.  She thinks about this a lot.  I'd want her to learn to be considerate but I don't want her so stressed out that she just shuts down.   [/quote]

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