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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, no troll.

I'm the 50/50 guy.

Wife and I split all household duties 50/50 and all expenses 50/50

Seriously, please tell me why I am a piece of shit because of this??

How is 50/50 for everything "weird?"

We believe in equality in our household, equal work and equal share of expenses.

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It's not 50/50. It's 3:1 as you said. It's not really "yours" though, unless you have a prenup. [/quote]

yes all expenses are calculated and then we each contribute 50% of the expenses to the joint account.

how is that not 50/50?

mine is mine, hers is hers, and ours is ours

we are a married couple keeping separate and distinct banking and savings with a written agreement to share all joint expenses 50/50.  a judge looking at that in a divorce scenario would be hard pressed to declare spousal support or anything else another than a division of the assets we have already declared bilaterally as jointly held, such as a home if we were to purchase one together.

Why the women on here think this makes me a terrible person is beyond me.  Wife has no interest in claiming my income as her own because she is her own equal person with a right to work and secure her own income and assets.

we jointly pay for a nanny and a housekeeper , and jointly contribute to household duties.

Please tell me where the inequity is?  Where does the outrage come from?

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It's a percentages issue. If you came here and said we both contribute 25% of our income to such and such, that would be more fair. But for her to reach 50% of your joint household expenses, it takes more of a percentage of income to reach that. That's not equal. You yourself said you're banking 3:1 to her. I get that you earn more so in your tit for tat world, good for you. But part of why she's not banking more is that she actually contributes more percentage-wise to your household than you do. But hey, if all's well in your house, and you do in fact see eye to eye on money issues, this wasn't exactly applicable to the OP, where they don't see eye to eye. [/quote]

no, what you are describing is more favorable to the woman.  the food bill is $100.  we each contribute $50.  Why should I contribute $75 to her $25?

She would never even think to ask me to do that anyhow.  I just simply don't understand what drives the female perspective you are putting forth.

Seems to me its the old adage - whats hers is hers and whats mine is hers.

What you are describing is not equality it is a subsidy.  Its communist actually.  To each according to their need and from each according to their ability.  Right?

Failing to realize that our situation is actually true equality really hammers home how feminism isn't about equality but about favoritism for women.

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Well, in your nickle and diming world, why don't you just set up a vending machine in your house and only eat what you directly pay for. In my house, my husband consumes way more than I do. Why should I have to pay for that? The answer? Because we have an actual partnership. What's ours is ours. [/quote]

still no good answer really.

sure I eat more of the daily groceries, but she drinks wine whereas I do not, and we buy that together.  She also funds her daily work lunches from the account and I bring mine.  And she likes nice cheeses whereas I like simply foods.  It generally balances out.

Hell, we even do our own laundry while nanny does child's.

So still pretty sure its all equal.

In fact, I even pay for more of the housing expense because I use more of the space than she does (children from previous marriage) - but that is again based on clear lines of consumption - this one of those being "my" expense and not a joint one.

And yet still, not a good answer as to why a woman should pay less than her half.

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