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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is the "best guy ever" because you've been out of the dating pool for so long.

I dated a guy like this for 5 years in my 20s.  Ungodly gorgeous, brilliant, fascinating, and also totally immature and not ready for commitment.  I moved on.  I thought there was no one else like him but just 6 months later I met someone totally different,but better.  Amazing, ready for commitment, even smarter, cute, loves all the things I love and treats me like a princess.

You deserve a life with a partner, not a whiner.  Keep this guy as your friend -- it sounds like you get along.  Find the partner for you.  You'll never do it unless you break up with this guy and get out there.
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This. There's a big difference between a guy who's great and a guy who's great for you, not to sound all self-helpy about it. But - if you are at the stage in life where you want to settle down, make a future - you really need someone who is going to be your partner, not just who's going to be entertaining and hot. And guys like that are out there. They may not be the flashiest, they may not be out at the bars you're hanging around in a lot, but they are out there.

On the other hand, if you're really looking for good sex and some drama to keep things interesting, then keep the hot guy.

[b]I tell you this as someone who had a lot of tumultuous relationships up through my mid-30s, then settled down with a guy I'd have rejected outright when I was younger. I'm not sorry I had my fun. I sometimes miss my fun. I am grateful every singly day I didn't marry one of those other guys.[/b]

Good luck, OP![/quote]

So you got fucked by bad-boy, emotionally unavailable men, in all sorts of nasty, wild places and positions, for about 15 years, followed by finding a meal ticket man who you are not actually attracted to?  Does hubby know he pledged his life to a woman who spent 15 years of her life spreading her legs for [b]everyone but him[/b]?[/quote]

You are seriously uptight about sex. [/quote]

it struck a cord, because he's still not over feeling like the Plan B guy the past 15 years.[/quote]

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