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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm dating someone, also thirty, and have been since we were twenty-two. About seven years and a little more. He has ADHD and depression and has struggled with it his whole life. It has been a problem and it's still undertreated. I've had depression in the past, but personally am doing a lot better.  Because of the length of time we've been together, I've been putting the pressure on with regard to marriage and children, and he has taken my communication as an unwarranted ultimatum. He says he doesn't have his life together enough to get married and doesn't know when he will, but he wants to be with me and knows he'll never find anyone better. He had a salary and benefits, though he makes much less than I do, which I dont care about. He has some self-regulation problems and has at times drank and smoked too much, but has gotten much better as we've grown up. [b]Do I break up with him and start looking for a marriage minded guy?[/b] Do I stay with the person I love and want to marry but risk that he won't actually ever be ready, and even if he does, I will struggle along with his ADHD issues for life? I'm admittedly a little scared to date because I feel like I don't connect on a romantic level with many men in general. I have a law degree, a good job, and am objectively an attractive girl who looks a lot younger than my age. I have been told that when I'm all done up I am "tv hot."  What are people's thoughts on this? I feel like sometimes you get more honest responses from strangers than friends. [/quote]

Don't break up and start looking for a marriage-minded guy. Break up and live your life. This guy has kept you hanging way too long and he has a ton of issues. Break up, live your life, and someone who can commit will come along.[/quote]

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