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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do Indian parents do it? Lots of hard work and sacrifice for their children and no life of their own.
 
Why do they do it?  Here is the mindset - they have come from a culture where the difference between the have-nots and haves was very stark, and education was the way to salvation. Coming to the US these fears were not removed but exaggerated the first time they faced the glass ceiling.

There was a naivete when they first came here that merit will be a great equalizer, but then they watch themselves being bypassed at work frequently. Then they are told that they are different.  They are a minority but unlike Hispanics or AA they will not be given any breaks. They will compete with whites, but because of their skin color they don't have to be just better than the whites, they have to be exponentially better than the whites.

So as a result this is what happens. Indians don't just prepare, they over-prepare.

They save like crazy, live frugally, because God forbid they have to take any handouts from someone. They will pay for education for their kids for how ever many years it takes them to be a doctor or lawyer or engineer. Very rarely does an Indian kid walks away with a student debt.

They will push and push and push their kids. And in the process they will push themselves. You will see that the Geography Bee and Spelling Bee has tons of Indian kids and their parents in the audience. This is just plain hard work. Work till there is nothing else in your life, kind of hard work.

And they do not assimilate. Why should they? This country did not invest in their education. They were the result of brain drain from India. They have paid taxes and were legal immigrants and have not been on welfare, since they arrived here. So they reject the "western" culture, before the "western culture" can reject them.

The idea is to be so well qualified, and have so many credentials that no one can deny them their rightful recognition and reward. Because we can depend on no one but ourselves.

Indians do not push their kids to satisfy their own ego. They push because they are afraid of their kids being treated unfairly.  [/quote]

[b]Too be honest, I am not sure there is a lot wrong with what they are doing and that there are plenty of minority Americans who need to start acting like this so their kids can get ahead.[/b][/quote]

To be honest, you are not seeing the irony. They have to be [u]exponentially better than whites[/u]  and they will [u]not get the breaks other minorities get[/u] to advance. There is poverty within Asian and Indian community as well.   The affirmative action should be based on income not race.    And most of us are still over-qualified and under-paid as compared to any other race. [/quote]

DO you honestly believe that Indian people have it as badly as black people in this country? I'm Indian and have definitely experienced racism, and my parents' stories break my heart. But black people have it far, far worse. Being a middle-class Indian is far more advantageous than being a middle class black person. [/quote]

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