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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Bottom line, it is what you put in as a parent when it cones to educating your kids.  I am not doing extra Kumon or sylvan classes for my girls, but we do work on things at home from history, math, language writing, and music.  Are we doing this all day in their after school hours? No, but they typically have at least an hour's worth of work to do.  Then they can play.  I think it is important for kids to understand that it is important to practice so they don't forget.  Any parent who thinks that their public or private school will or should give their child everything he/she needs for education is sadly disillusioned.  It is just not that way.....now more than ever.  Does it take time and effort to pull materials for my children to work on! Yes, but I look at that as my job as their parent.  Even with the snow days, I still pull work for them to do.  Generally speaking, parents are overwhelmed and don't have the time, patience, or energy to pull the extra work.  Instead it is easier to criticize and overinflated what others are doing.  It is easier to say, "just let them play" in order to justify not pulling extra work to help them practice...even if it is just for an hour.  I agree about what one of the PPs wrote about quitting.  Before you give in yo your child wanting to quit, try to calmly explain the value in what they are doing or learning.  Even from K, they get it.  Let your child make the choice.  Even tonight, I gave my younger First Grader 10 subtraction problems to work out and then use addition to check her answer.  She started complaining that she just wanted to subtract and not do the checking.  Later in the evening, I spoke with her one on one.  I told her that it drained me to gear her whining about the work I have her to practice.  I explained that practicing those problems will help her learn and check her own answers.  I asked her if she wanted me to stop pulling work.  She said, "No, I get it.  Thank you for helping.  We are a team."   That pretty much says it all. Teamwork![/quote]

Curious -- do you work outside the home full- time and have the typical Washington region commute of 40 minutes each way (so an additional ~6 hours away from home)?

My observation here and in NYC is that most East Asian mothers (currently aged 55-70) are SAHM or help out at the restaurant while kids are in school only.  I can't help but wonder if this isn't a key factor. [/quote]
Bingo! You hit the nail on the head. "Absentee parenting" from your downtown office is like any absentee "management". 
It usually doesn't work so well. Trying to make up for it when you get home at night, is simply frustrating for most parents and children. 
But hey, all you can do, is the best you can do, right? If that's the best you can do, no need to sweat or fight about it.[/quote]
True?[/quote]

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