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[quote=Anonymous]For starters, I honestly do not think it has anything to do with you as a person or how you look. I say this because I've known women who are rotten to the core and still found husbands. Many of us know of women who are most likely mentally ill and they still get married. I had a friend during high school who needed A LOT of work done on herself physically-- needed major dental work, hair cut, some weight loss, better clothes-- and she found a husband before anyone else ever did. Another woman I know from college was obese and found a man online who also had weight issues. I can go on and on. I think it comes down to just being what someone is looking for at a certain time in their life, the kind of woman a guy is looking for (the "I only date models/tall blondes/fellow Jews/Asians/Brazilians/secretaries" men) or just being in the right place at the right time.

There are also your own standards to consider. I believe that women who want to be married will get married ASAP. I'm not saying they're going to marry anyone wonderful, but they will find someone who wants to be married. Saw this throughout college, friends who wanted to be married and they go married within a year of graduation. I'd never want to be tied to any of their husbands, they weren't my type, but these girls wanted to be married and they made it priority #1. If you wanted to be married, you would have agreed to an arranged marriage long ago. You'd be married with a few kids by now, but that was no longer your priority. Nothing wrong with that. It's not the major priority for a lot of women in their late teens/early 20s.

Again, I don't think you're necessarily doing anything wrong, unless you're sitting at home every day watching TV and not even at least hanging out at a cafe or going to a happy hour with friends after work. Some of my closest friends are nice looking women with good jobs and interesting lives and they're pushing 40 and can't find anyone to save their lives. They go on dates via Match.com, but nothing pans out-- UNLESS they completely change their requirements-- date guys of other races, men who are a few years younger, men who are blue collar, men who have been divorced already and have children.

At this point, 26 isn't an age to worry, not yet. I would recommend just considering how much of a priority it is to you to get married over the, say, next four years. If it is a priority, they see if you can get an arranged marriage or go online. Otherwise, you just have to date and wait. [/quote]

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