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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't believe how many people are upset about this.  It makes perfect sense and shouldn't be considered insulting.  I'd be insulted if my DIL got her panties in a wad over this.  It's his family's money - they want it to stay in the family.   And it implies you think there's a chance you'll split.  I mean, if you're SO sure you'll stay together forever, take the money, sign their agreement and live happily ever after.

And In the case of divorce,  what's the big deal?  They give you $50k for a down payment on a $500,000 house.  in 5 years, you guys split, the house is worth $800,000 - you sell the house you get $350, he gets $450.  Seriously, why get so bent out of shape over this?  [/quote]

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If OP doesn't think divorce is a possibility, even remote, then what's the big deal.[/quote]

The big deal is that it is insulting to the OP.

[b]Suppose the OP gave the ILs a Christmas gift this year with one condition: that she inherit it back after they die.[/b] Maybe every time she gives them a gift birthdays/Christmas, she would remind the ILs that one day - after they die- that gift would be her's again.  Would that be rude, insensitive, completely out of line?  Or just a matter of practicality - after all, the ILs are older than the OP and they are probably going to die before she does...so she might as well stake her claim now and she might as well give them stuff that she wants back.[/quote]

We actually had this happen. Very ugly at a time when one person is mourning and the other is greedy. Hurtful.[/quote]

Yes, hurtful.  Marginalizing. [/quote]

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