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First of all, it isn't horrible, we just don't agree on frequency. Second of all, I actually believe there's more to a good marriage than just sex.

If your husband's low libido bothers you that much buy a vibrator.  Problem solved.
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If you think a vibrator solves the problem, then you don't understand the problem.

And while there definitely is more to a good marriage than "just sex," for many (most?) people, sex is a necessary component of a good marriage.

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Agreed.  DH used to have the low libido (turns out it was a medical problem that has since been fixed).  Rejection from him led me to stop trying.  And before I stopped trying I figured it was something to do with me.  I spent months miserable trying to figure out what was wrong with our marriage and me.  Eventually, I stopped trying.  Why bother if 9 times out of 10 I was going to be rejected.  When DH DID initiate, it was miserable.  I spent the whole time being sad about the lack of sex in our life and why he didn't want it more.  This then led to lack of affection.  Why bother hugging, kissing, cuddling etc if I was just going to get turned on and have it lead no where, or just get sad about our lack of sex life.  DH was miserable too because he knew how rejected I felt.  This went on for about a year and we were in trouble.  Finally figured out what was going on and he got meds.  Now everything is great and we've rekindled the romance.   It isn't the act of sex.  It is all the emotions and feelings that go along with feeling attractive and loved, and being rejected over and over and over again.  [/quote]

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