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Anyhow, our friends don't know about our "McMansion" because we never invite anyone over.  I love the house and we definitely made the right decision, but I feel too self-conscious about what people will think (that they won't want to be friends with us) if we invite them over.  We are super low key and drive really old, crappy cars (because we have no interest in cars), wear cheap clothes from Target because we have no interest in brands or labels, and I don't have any jewelry, so people assume we are not financially successful.  [b]I want to keep that image going, so we do not invite anyone over to the house.  It works for us. [/b][b] I don't like entertaining at home anyway, and it's hard enough to make new friends (we are new to the area) without having them make negative comments (or think negatively) of us because of our house purchase[/b].[/quote]

This is just so bizarre.  You've never invited any friends over to your house?  It sounds like you are working so hard to hide your good fortune that you are not enjoying it.  Why do you think anyone cares THAT MUCH about your house, of all things?  I cannot imagine being this uncomfortable and self-conscious.

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I wrote the above.  The reason we don't invite anyone over anymore is because of the negative comments we got when we did invite people over.  People shouldn't care about these things but many do.  Some people didn't want to be friends anymore after they came over to our house.  So to prevent that from happening again, we just prefer to meet friends at restaurants, etc.  [/quote]

You must be the poster who wrote about not having any friends to throw a baby shower,  you said the same thing about why you couldn't have people from work over your house for a meet and greet[/quote]

Yes, you are correct.  There will be no baby shower for me (but I am actually okay with that now).  And I'm not having a meet and greet for this reason--don't want to invite people over to hear their comments.   I also prefer not to entertain at home.  I don't want the work involved, the cleanup, etc.  I don't enjoy cooking/entertaining.  But I enjoy meeting people at restaurants or going out to the theater, etc.

Anyhow, some people let things like house size, etc. get in the way of a good friendship.  I've seen it happen several times.  So we don't invite anyone over so that we don't have to deal with this.  It's hard enough to make new friends in this area when you're not from here.  Things are stressful enough when we meet new people and tell them what DH does for a living--we get lots of negative comments there too.[/quote]

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