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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me guess, you make more money than he does? [/quote]

I am not sure if/how this is relevant as many women make more than their male spouses but yes, I do make more money than him. However, he also has more deferred compensation/military benefits than I do in the form of military pension and education benefits that can be transferred to our children. His 401-K is more than mine, but he is also older than me and works for a company that has had a very generous match program in the past. So yes, I make more base salary. But I think he has more assets. However, this was not always the case. When we first met and were dating, he made more money than me. I was then promoted in very rapid succession at work, and he has been at the same career level for almost 7 years and has not received a pay raise in 2 years. His performance reviews are ok, but some of the comments hint at some of what I see at home (i.e. overly aggressive about obtaining feedback from co-workers on draft deliverables, etc). I get the sense that he does not have any champions or close collaborators in his work setting. When I have had events in my life (marriage, babies, etc.), co-workers have organized events in my honor. Nobody has done anything like that for him, though his company did send a fruit basket when the kids were born. Since I am not with him at work, it is really hard for me to tell what is going on. Maybe people are just less collegial in his work setting. If I take his side, he says that an active reserve career has negatively affected his career growth. I imagine that is at least partly true as he often takes time off for trainings, etc. There is also a lot of contraction in the government contracting world. I don't know. Those are the facts and the only information I can think to provide in response to this question. I'm not sure if this is helpful or not. [/quote]

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