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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how come you're not addressing everyone who is giving you concrete and sound advice?  you're only defending yourself.  I'll summarize for you the sound advice you got(and add some of my own):

1.  you become sole driver of your kids.  You act like you're a single parent.  You get to aftercare before him, you drive them to functions.
2.  You do not let your DH take kids out of the house when he's drinking.  Again, you behave as if you're a single parent.  Co-exist with him in the house for the time being.
3.  Go to Al-Anon.  They will give you advice to stop enabling your DH - and their advice won't be "leave and get a good lawyer"  it'll be things to say/do when he drinks.
4.  If he resists your actions to drive kids everywhere you call the police.  They will determine if he's able to drive (and if he's able to take the kids in his condition).
5.  Put the kids to bed yourself.  even if he starts drinking after you've gone to bed, there should be no reason for DH to be taking care of your DC alone after you've gone to bed.  You are responsible for your kids.  Feed them, dress them, put them to bed.  That would stop this "he's cold at the top of the stairs" shit.

you seem to be ignoring these posts and only starting to argue with people that are judging you.  You need to put your big girl panties on and take care of your kids.  You don't need to either leave him or let him drive the kids - there's a middle ground here that will protect your kids.  [/quote]

OP, listen to this, this is a post that tells you how to work around his drinking and stay in the marriage.

Because I do agree with you in that when your kids are with him you will have ZERO control and getting full custody + supervised visits isn't guaranteed. I found the PP who argued that maybe OP's DH will limit his drinking to non-custodial days to be one of the most Pollyannaish things I have *ever* read on this forum. While what you have now isn't really working, you can better change things in the marriage than out of it (when he will have the kids 5-50% of the time depending on how good of an act he can put on in family court.)

1) Just do it, don't ask permission. If he asks, say you can't let him anywhere alone with the kids when he's been drinking. 
2) Ditto. 
3) If you don't even do this, OP, you are failing yourself and your kids.
4) Ditto. (1) and (2) can be done passively. 
5) Yep. If he isn't a mean/violent drunk, or can be trusted to at least put the kids to bed, consider that.

Talk to a lawyer. In the meantime, document everything. [/quote]

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