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[quote=Anonymous]I stayed in a loveless marriage with a man who cheated on me and treated me with little to no respect for 6 years (we were together for 12 years). I stayed for my kids, because I was terrified I could never support them on my own and unwilling to even consider taking them away from their father, who they adore. I was miserable, felt worthless, and it seemed like my entire life centered around reacting to the way he treated me and the choices he made.

And then one day I just hit the wall. I couldn't face one more minute of it. I can't explain why or how but I just decided that my kids deserved a mother who valued herself more than I did.

That was 3 years ago. We're divorced now. My life is much harder than it was before we split up. Money is tight, logistics are hard, and there are times when I am so damn tired I want to crawl into bed for a week.
But even though my life is harder, it's also a hell of a lot happier. My kids had a rough time for a little while but by now they have a new normal and it works. Their father and I get along well enough to co-parent in a healthy way. This is not the life I planned to have but, for the first time in a long time, it's a life I am proud of.

I guess I just want to say that I know what it feels like when you are miserable and broken down and feel like you have no options. I'm proof that you do have options. You just need to be willing to do the scary thing and make the choice. Oh, and don't make it alone. Therapy was my salvation, if for no other reason than it gave me a space to be totally honest out loud without being afraid of the repercussions. [/quote]

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