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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't really see why the weight is an "issue" or why it's anyone's business to be discussing it -- including why girlfriend gained the weight or whether she "admits" to overeating or whatever. If your son no longer wants to date her for whatever reason -- including weight -- then he should gently break up with her. He doesn't have to give a reason. Kids break up in high school all the time. If he still likes her and wants to date her but is sensitive to his friends talking about how fat she is, then he should learn to stand up to his friends. 15 is not too young to learn to withstand peer pressure. He'll need to learn that skill for all the drinking, drug, academic cheating, etc issues that will come his way over the next few years. If the girlfriend wants to discuss her weight with him, great, but chances are she doesn't. And it's not like she's a bad person for suddenly gaining the weight or not losing it. It is what it is. I don't see a need for some sort of intervention or teaching moment other than for your son to take an honest look at his feelings and what he wants out of this relationship. If the relationship is based on friendship and personality, then he should consider whether her looks or weight would really prevent him from continuing it. If the relationship is based on physical attraction, and that is no longer there, then he should end it. And under no circumstance, obviously, should he be trashing her to anyone else (sounds like he is a sensitive kid but his friends, perhaps less so).[/quote]

+1.  Good response.[/quote]

Agree.  The kid is 15.  OP should stay out of it.[/quote]

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Its just high school dating. Unleas he was going to marry her, they were going to break up at some point.[/quote]

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