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[quote=Anonymous]I am 43.5 and in early labor with my second child.  I honestly haven't sensed any disapproval or silent treatment from health care practitioners in DC.  If anything, I get dismissed by care providers when I express worries about age-related complications with statements to the effect that I am pretty average for pregnant patients around here.  That isn't to say that they didn't also recommend extra testing and induction before 40 weeks, but that's very different from expressed or thinly-veiled shock or disapproval.

I think there could be three things going on in your case.  First, people from outside of East Coast urban centers where everyone is overly educated and career-obsessed tend to start families before the age of 30-32 and they really can't fathom waiting until their 40s.  A lot of these people probably react similarly to other non-traditional lifestyle choices, like gay marriage, single parenthood by choice, etc.  It's just very unfamiliar and therefore, to them, strange.  Many of these people absolutely think that their way is the better way and that there is something kind of sad about 40+ moms.  Oh well.

Second, especially if it is early in the pregnancy, care providers are probably concerned at each visit that something will have gone wrong, and they will have to tell you and crush you.  This will probably ease as the pregnancy progresses and test results come back clean.

Third, in the case of friends and colleagues, they are probably silent because they are wondering how you got pregnant but know that it is inappropriate to ask.  Anyone who knows anything about conception knows that when a woman is pregnant at 45, she might just have magic ovaries, but it is far more likely that she used donor eggs or embryos frozen when she was younger.  The dropped jaws and silent types may just be wondering which camp you are in, but they are too polite to ask.  
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