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[quote=Anonymous]I get envious of those that have help- we have none (and ALL of our friends have help from family so it's hard to compare a trip to grandma's as our vacation to your paid by grandma cruise with a nanny...three times a year).  But I  try to focus on what we do have.  And, my best friend thinks I have the world in my hands and it's not true.  I just don't share the 'crap' because no one wants to hear about what keeps me up at night.  When you look at us, I have an amazing husband, two kids, the dog, the beautiful home.  But, you don't know how we did the labor since we couldn't afford to hire someone.  Our furniture looks very nice- almost all of it was purchased used and we have refinished it since we couldn't afford the designer stuff.  But, you'd never know it when you walk in.  I'm not going to tell you- oh, you love my daughter's bed, I paid $5 for it.  I am not ashamed of it (and my best friend knows a lot of this type of thing) but the random mom here doesn't know that.  She just sees the overall picture.

I always remember how my sister and I at one point were jealous of one another.  She was married with kids, living in a beautiful house and I looked at her saying, she's got her life together.  She looked at me and my newly married husband living in an apartment, no worries, traveling, working at jobs that we love and was jealous of the freedom we had with nothing holding us back from just going somewhere on a whim without worrying about kids!

We just went to a wedding- it was spectacular and nicer than our wedding could have ever been.  They are dripping with cash while we are hanging by a string.  They may have wealth, but we have health.  I cried as I saw the mother of the bride walk down the aisle, knowing her last chemo treatment didn't go well.  While I'd love to be as financially secure as they are, having my mom hold my kids for the first time and be on the phone when something goes wrong is priceless.

My point...you never know what keeps even your best friend up at night.  I'm convinced that no one has it all and those that pretend to are probably not the friends I want.
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