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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I never hear someone ask if it's okay to do that with an overweight person. It is completely different for one person (a sibling, for example) to just say to the alcoholic..."Listen Jim, I'm worried that you drink to much. you need help." As yourself honestly. Do you think that EVER works? if you don't know than I'll tell you - NO. the alcoholic will probably alienate himself from that sibling that keeps "nagging" him (his view) about his drinking. That is exactly what everyone is saying about the overweight person. [/quote]

You took quite a leap there (and created quite a straw man) from mentioning genuine (a and well-founded) concern for the sibling's health to "nagging" such that the obese sibling feels the need to distance himself.  No one has suggested that the OP nag her sibling (and I'm using her only as an easy example, as she's already said she isn't going to say anything).  But numerous people have said that OP must not even MENTION - once - to her sibling that she is greatly concerned for his health (once again, with good cause).  Is that what you are suggesting?

Look, I get that people are sensitive about this issue.  But do you all really come from families and friendships where, when someone is in need, the others just passively stand by and do nothing, or (at best) make passive-aggressive comments?  Are you so starved for honest communication and concern that you don't recognize it when you see it?  That's just sad.  [/quote]

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