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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are an average upper middle class family (HHI 150k) with kids in elite independents for many years. Over those years I learned that you cannot judge someone by their possessions or their money. I made friends with some very wealthy women who were just lovely and down to earth -- also met some women who were shallow, petty and status conscious. It just all depends. You never know until you take some time to get to know people better. Then you see what they are truly made of.

I will say that on occasion I felt left out because I didn't belong to the Junior League, sit on the board of the museum or hospital, belong to the country club, or go skiing in Aspen or Stowe over Christmas break. In these subtle ways I did sometimes feel like an outsider, even though I had many friends at the school who were very kind to me. To be honest, it was sort of a relief to move our kids to public school and no longer have to face that sort of social exclusion.[/quote]If you moved your kids to public school because it was truly financial or because it provided better academic opportunities than you made the right decision.

But if you moved them because you felt like an outsider because you didn't have a prestigious position or didn't ski in Aspen then you have thrown a wonderful opportunity away because of your insecurities.  Your first sensible paragraph totally contradicts your 2nd one.  You say you can't judge someone by possessions but turn around and say you feel like an outsider because of what high-end activities you don't do.

Well, thankfully you have found relief in public school, no longer face social exclusion, and the past experience should no longer have any bearing on your life.[/quote]

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