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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You people have no idea what you are talking about and most of you are projecting wildly based on feelings and experiences that you think are relevant but that are not. I really hope the OP is long gone (and not reading this craziness) and that she has taken the advice to get help from a trained therapist.

For the rest of you, here's some information about the stages and psychology of reunion that may help you understand some of the things that actually could be going on:

http://www.originscanada.org/stages-of-reunion/

http://birthfamily-search.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/stages-of-reunion

Adoption reunion is considerably more complicated than any of you seem to think. Your wild speculation is only going to confuse the OP, who needs real help. Please be more judicious in your comments.[/quote]

Self-proclaimed expert who is the only one who grasps the complexity of this: I have my own valid experience as someone reunited with my bio sister.  I get to have an opinion, and OP asked for it.  It won't damage her to know that some people think her brother's actions may BR reasonable and her attitude and tone are out of line.[/quote]

Hey opinionated adopted person - your own experience is just that. And you still seem really angry so I'm not sure you're experience and opinions are those of a person who handled your own reunion all that well. And yes, it will damage the OP to have her feelings invalidated and trashed as you seem bound and determined to do. (You think your feelings are valid but the OPs aren't???) You don't seem to recognize that reunion affects the whole family and the family's feelings about it are also valid - as are the feelings of the bioparents and any biosiblings. Reunion affects a lot of people. The adoptee is not the only person who matters. The bigger question is - How come you don't know this?  [/quote]

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