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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I married a man with significantly more money and earning potential than me. He made more than 3x as much as I did and came into the marriage with a pretty big stock portfolio. He will also likely inherit quite a bit of money upon the death of his father.  I did not sign a prenup, but I also would not have felt entitled to any of his "family money" any more than I would have felt entitled to stocks he bought before we were in a relationship at all.  We had a child together, but are now divorced.  If I marry again, I would want to sign a prenup with FutureHusband that addresses my DD and her future. I also stand to inherit a decent sum of money upon the death of my father (who got it from his mother), and I would want that money to go to DD.

I would not, as an exwife, want to bankrupt a family business demanding half of my ex-husband's stake in it. That seems unnecessarily vindictive. I would expect him to pay his legal child support obligations, but I would not expect alimony or anything of the kind. I am an adult who is perfectly capable of supporting myself without the money of someone I chose to divorce.

As for whether agreeing to a prenup taints the marriage vows or sets you up for divorce, would you say that writing a will sets you up for death? Because in my opinion, a prenup is a will that would be exercised in the event of the death of a marriage. I would think that the terms of the prenup would also apply to a woman whose husband died - if my hypothetical FutureHusband with the family business died, I would not want to inherit his share of the business. If I was another member of the family, I would not want for my husband's widow to inherit his share of the business. Something, maybe, but not a partner's share.[/quote]

the difference between a will and a prenup is that death is inevitable and certain.  Are you saying divorce is inevitable and certain?  If so, then why get married in the first place?  That's how I feel.  All of the arguments about "half of all marriages end in divorce" don't convince me people should get prenups -- it convinces me that people shouldn't be getting married.  Instead of setting up a legal arrangement in case a marriage fails, just set up a legal arrange to co-habitate (i.e. establish power of attorney, et cetera).  The whole point of getting legally married is to become legally and financially entangled/merged.  You don't have to get married because you're in love.  Just be in love!

The problem with prenups, as with any legal document (like a will), is that they can still be contested.  So then it becomes a matter of both parties getting lawyers to go over things to make sure it's airtight, et cetera, et cetera.  It seems ridiculous.  Again, just don't get married!

Even with a prenup, once you get married, your spouse affects your credit.  There's no avoiding every possible thing.  If you don't want to be entangled, don't get married![/quote]

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