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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the bigger issue are the parents trying to force their values on the couple.  They are threatening to boycott the wedding???  But I assume they will keep him in the family business all the same if he marries the woman???  Major relationship red flag there and I question the priorities of the parents.

I commend the groom for sticking up for his wife to be.  If I was him, I would contact a lawyer to investigate other ways for the family business and his parents assets to be protected besides just a prenup.  Then he could go to his parents with a proposal of other options to ease their concerns.  His individual assets are shared between him and his future wife and his parents should mind their own beeswax regarding those.  The joint family asset should be their only concern and I believe those could be protected under a trust or corporation entity. [/quote]

OP here, the DIL suggested other ways of keeping herself of out of the business without a prenup.
[b]FIL stated that he won't be told how to run his business by a young twenty something.[/b]FIL wants a prenup.

I believe the children have part legal ownership.[/quote]

If I was her, I would think long and hard about marrying into a family like that.  Imagine trying to deal with in laws like that for 20-30 years.  Whoa.  I see a whole lot of crap hitting the fan other than this prenup issue unless a stand is made now.

For the groom to be, is he willing to walk away from the family business in support of his future wife?  He has terrible parents if they want to destroy his happiness over money.  The fiancé was just offering alternatives, not telling the father how to run his business.  The parents are also using purse strings to control the life of their children.  Horrible people.

If they are not even open to suggestions, I wouldn't marry the guy unless he was willing to sever his ties with the business and draw a clear boundary with his parents.  If they chose not to come to the wedding or future important events like grandchildren, I would say they made their bed and let them lie in it.  They can die as miserable, lonely, old people with no family.  Nursing homes are full of them.[/quote]

+1  except I just plain wouldn't marry him, because he might later resent losing any claim to the family business over me.

Of all of the marriages I have observed (family, friends, et cetera), it actually seems to me that it's not money that breaks up most marriages or causes the most misery in a marriage; it's inlaws.

I realized that one of the big things to look into before agreeing to marry someone was whether I could deal with the inlaws.  If inlaws are intrusive, manipulative, controlling, that's a red flag.  It's not even that you have to like your inlaws, but you do have to feel relatively confident that they're not going to interfere in your marriage.  And usually there are flags before getting married.

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