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[quote=Anonymous]I think about it sometimes. DH is a very good father and a good man. Sex life has been nonexistent for many years, and I fear if we stay together I'll need to have an affair. Still, we are overall happy together. I just wish there were more of a sexual component to our marriage.[/quote]

This - lack of sex - has been one of my husbands serious complaints, so serious that he has threatened infidelity, or taking a second wife (hope to God that is a joke, but given my disability it might not be.}  Because it is a marriage with kids he has had a hard time figuring out how he would explain this to our children in a theological way - we are devout x religion that has never heard of plural marriage and has always  considered it more of a fantasy.  He has gotten sex on demand since he asked for a divorce since 2007, because like others have said, has done the research and decided we have to wait,  I think his heart broke when his mom left his dad when he was 7)
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Even though I give in every time he asks me to (I'm the disabled one) he complains about the lack of variety.  He gets sex on demand about 4 times a week but when I brought it up in an argument recently he said (in front of my 11 year old daughter) that even the sex wasn't that good because I have to wear a neck brace etc He even gets frustrated when I am having my period.  He knows I am the survivor of a really brutal rape and some of the things he has suggested I do ( I have NEVER, not even in college, given him BJ's and now after falling down the stairs I have TMJ and would need to see  a physical therapist to be able to open my frigging mouth wide enough - imagine that conversation with a PT !)  I feel a little sorry for him because according to him although I had never done it in the ten years we were together before marriage he somehow thought I would get better about this and and enjoy sex more ingeneral and the BJ thing has come out of thin air.  We certainly never discussed it with our priest.\
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