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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is incredibly sad. A lot of you mention :5/4/3 years to go... That's heartbreaking. Does that really seem like a short time to wait in a marriage that has already ended in your heart? I wish you all strength and most importantly happiness in other interests or hobbies and ESP. Your children while you wait it out. I understand the reasoning but it seems horribly unhealthy, and I hope it is worth it in the end.[/quote]

Yes, it's a short time, and my mind could very well change over that time, so the point about the marriage ending in my heart isn't quite so. Nothing is carved in stone. The difficult thing is living together. I can't expect him to change but what I would like to see is he not considering me neurotic for wanting to keep relatively clutter-free. I say relatively because I expect my husband to be able to live in his own home. [/quote]

I'm glad to hear it's not set in stone for you. But quite a few PPs  have made their decision and are eagerly waiting the end. They are done, they said so themselves. Yes things can change but not if you are deader on the opposite and not welcoming change. Like I said I understand the reasoning. But if I were in the same position I know I could not be my best self for my children, I am horrible at compartmentalizing and my roles in other parts of my life would surely suffer. Once I knew it was the sure end I would have to leave for the sake of my children and myself. I hope I never find myself in this position because it is surely one of the most difficult. After all we all marry our spouse for a reason, if that were gone, if the love and connection was gone, i'd be lost in my marriage.[/quote]

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