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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The boredom and drudgery of childcare and housework almost drove me bonkers. 
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This is me too.

[quote]I'll be the voice of dissent. I left my job to sah and have since returned to work. Staying home is HARD. You say you have no time to yourself now. That will only get worse if you sah, at least while the kids are little. I don't regret my time at home but am so much happier back at work, and looking back should have gone back sooner[/quote].

And this.  I SAH and couldn't stand it.  I loved being with my kids, but [b]the cooking, cleaning, every single day.  day in and day out.  the grocery shopping, laundry, folding clothes, over and over again.  drove me crazy.  [/b]I thought my job was boring when I was in it, but once staying home for a while, I would have done anything to have my job back.

Consider an extended leave - I envisioned my life would be like it was when I took a week or two off, which was fun and exciting, playing with the kids, etc.  But the difference was the repetition of it all.  Just consider all the details of everything that has to get done that you may outsource right now, but would fall on your shoulders if you SAH.

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Um, you still have to do these things, right? Only in your "off hours". I guess that's assuming you aren't so well of that you can hire a nanny who will do it all. [/quote]

Not pp, but I think the point is that you spend more time doing those things if you SAH because a) you have more time to do it and less money to hire someone and b) your husband likely wouldn't do as much as he would if you worked outside the home (at least that's how it is in my house - we both work, we split housework, we both take care of the kid, etc)[/quote]

I'm the pp you quoted and for my household, it's like this pp stated.  With us both working, we split household chores and had a weekly housekeeper come in to do the rest.  when I quit, we had to push the housekeeper to do once-a-month for the big stuff and the rest fell on my shoulders.  Other things we got rid of - we did peapod and other grocery delivery options, we ate out or ordered in several times a week, had lawn maintenance, and honestly, quite a few things would hardly ever get done - like folding and putting away laundry.  Often, we'd wash/dry  clothes and they'd go in laundry baskets ready to be folded and put away, but before that would happen, we'd be digging in the piles for our clean clothes.  Once I stayed home, I felt obligated to do all that stuff and others we just cut back on because of finances.

Honestly, I was one of those moms that loved spending time and being around my kids, but hated - absolutely hated doing all the housework stuff.  And that's what I meant about it being different than vacation.  For me, I envisioned being SAH like it was during a vacation, where I just spent the days playing and hanging out with the kids.  But when you're home for the long haul, all these other mundane tasks have to get done and in my family they fell on my shoulders and I hated it.

But like others have mentioned, it really depends on you and what works for you and your family - both options have their positives and negatives.[/quote]

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