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[quote=Anonymous]Hi, a few thoughts for 8:17 and anyone operating under the view that penis = male, vagina = female. For the 99% plus of the population that is non transgender, that is of course absolutely correct. But trans people are essentially "mentally" (i.e. in the brain) the other gender than their physical body. In the case of trans kids, like mine, this can show up pretty early in a persistent interest in trucks, rocks, GI Joes, the colors blue, grey, and brown, and all things boy. And a persistent rejection of flowers, sparkly things, dolls, the colors pink and purple, and all things girl. Or vice versa.

As a parent, you see this, and probably most here would say, "It's all good, let the kid be interested in what the kid is interested in." That's certainly what I did during the early elementary years - at first, reminding my kid from time to time "God made you a girl, honey. You don't have to wear dresses or things with flowers, but you aren't a boy, you are a girl." And later, that became "God made you a girl who feels like a boy, I understand that sweetie."

But then, limits are pushed. At a certain age, the kid figures out differences in underwear, haircuts, names and pronouns. If the kid is truly transgender (i.e. hasn't by this point reverted to his/her biological gender), any discongruence between what the kid wants in these other areas and what is happening in reality can lead to despair and depression. Go with the kid's flow, you've got a healthy happy kid. Put up a wall, you've got a scary situation on your parental hands. And onset of puberty - well, let's just say that can be a very exciting time for a trans kid, and not in a good way. So for me, it was at this next stage when I really started opening my mind to the fact that maybe this was more than a prolonged phase of tomboyish-ness.

If I had taken the strict view that penis=male and vagina=female, I am not sure where we'd be today. One can Google the stories of depression, homelessness, and suicide in trans kids and only speculate.

But today, we are here, happy and healthy and doing just fine. God, in his infinite wisdom, decides to make some people trans...I do not understand why it happens (....psssst NIH! a study here would be nice!) but I do accept it, having seen it firsthand.[/quote]

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