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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The only people that notice or think about this are those that want to be in the perceived “cliques” but aren’t, then feel the need to bash others because they feel rejected.

I have three kids and have my own friends whose children go to various other schools.  If there are parent cliques at my children’s schools, I’ve never taken notice.  [/quote]

This is true with cliques when there aren't kids involved, but in a school community cliques can have negative impacts for kids whose parents aren't in the clique, and that's why people notice.

I have zero interest in being part of the parent clique in my kid's school. It's a group of parents who live in the same part of the neighborhood and are very similar to each other and like doing stuff that I don't like doing, so it's never occurred to me to be jealous of their friendship or wish they would invite me to their gatherings. I wouldn't have fun! They are really into alcohol and sports, and I don't drink and don't play sports. So that's not the issue.

The problem is that my DD became buddies at school with one of their DDs, and me not being a member of that clique is basically killing this friendship. The parents don't want to set up playdates or facilitate the girls getting together outside of school because they only want their kid to socialize with their friend's kids. The few times we've been able to get the girls together, the parents have been kind of weird and acted like they were doing us a favor, which made no sense because we hosted and their daughter was very enthusiastic (she literally runs up to me at school and asks when she can come over next).

I just feel bad for my kid that the first friend she has made organically on her own is never available to hang out and her parents don't seem interested in their DD bing friends with mine at all. My kid has other friends, but this is her closest friend in her grade at school. It's just a shame.[/quote]

I still don’t understand the problem.  So what if they don’t invite your kid over afterschool/weekends.  Most people aren’t inviting any other kids over at all.   That is not necessary for kids to be friends.  You can invite her kid over when you feel like it.  Or don’t and they can just continue friendship at school.  [/quote]

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