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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell him you’re keeping your own name and the kids that come out of your body will also have your name. (This is very normal these days.)  He’s welcome to join if he wants consistency.[/quote]

I already told him that and he didn't like it. He found the proposal offensive.[/quote]

Red flag. Not someone I would marry.[/quote]

I kept my name and don't see this a red flag on his part, unless you also consider it a red flag on OP's.

It's one thing for each partner to keep their birth names, it's another for one partner to demand that they use their ln for hypothetical kids or make up a new name. That's an ultimatum, not really a discussion. What would you say if the roles were reversed?[/quote]

Actually, it’s the husband who is doing the demanding and giving an ultimatum. The default in the hospital when the spouses have different last names is that the new baby is called by mom’s name “Baby Smith”. If they want something different on the birth certificate then they need to specify that.[/quote]

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