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[quote=Anonymous]Here's a suggestion for families who are within driving distance to spend a day together.

It started after I got divorced and had the kids every other year. On the years I did not have them, I scheduled "Thanksgiving" dinner at my house on the Sunday before.

Groceries are fully stocked, you shop early before the last minute crowds, and the dinner feels just like Thanksgiving. As your kids age and partner up, they especially appreciate this, since it frees them up to go to their in-laws gathering on the actual holiday.

Over the years, I came to prefer Thanksgiving dinner on the Sunday before. I could spend the next week transitioning the house over to Christmas while everyone else was fretting about seeking water chestnuts for the stuffing or mini marshmallows for the yams. Meanwhile I have a full selection of Christmas lights to choose from at Target or Lowes before the crowds pour in that Friday.

That said, I would have picked up a clue when the OP's DIL asked to host a few years back. OP should have worked something out with her own guests to go to the DIL's that year, or at the least OP should have encouraged it for the year after. Some DDs or DILs want to host and I think it's important to support this and even if we "matriarchs" feel it is our right, I think it is more important to let the next generation take on the challenge when they express an interest.

At the same time, if the adult children are overwhelmed from work and kids and the retired grandparents have the time, money and space to host, by all means do so to make it easier on the young parents, if that is what your adult kids prefer.[/quote]

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