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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How come some parents are so open to play games with lives of their kids?

If you divorced on assumption that you can be a single mom, why not be one?[/quote]
+1. It’s what your children want and it’s best for them, no matter what they say (some kids will tell you they’re happy for you, but it’s survival for them).[/quote]

Correct. Or you aren't given a choice at all.

And adults will say rationalize it by saying we will have more money or itll be easier or they need a father figure or whatever. I am a parent now and I would NEVER remarry if I got divorced or widowed until my kids were out of the house. I made a commitment to my children when I had them. And every single man on this Earth will expect your marriage to come before the kids whether that is explicitly stated or not and most men cannot raise children they did not father the same way they view and raise their own children. They are more harsh, controlling, judgmental, etc. Its just like how you judge Sallys children at the birthday party. 
Money becomes an issue. For example, one kid wants to go to band camp and the other sleepover camp but there isnt enough for both. You think the "Dad" is going to let his kid go without, especially if he brings in more money? Ha!

Ive never seen a blended family work. Of course there are special cases as described here where someone found a millionaire Prince Charming and everything is perfect BUT aggregate data would show that to be an outlier. [/quote]
I’ve even seen families with unlimited resources have horrible outcomes for their kids because the disruption of having 50% less time with your parents, no permanent home, and new kids to contend with is so psychologically damaging to even the most well-adjusted family. 
Do not do it.[/quote]

All of this. It's amazing what seemingly rational people can delude themselves into believing.[/quote]

This^. [/quote]

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