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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, just checking back in (it's been a difficult 24 hours).  First, I really want to thank everyone-I do mean everyone-who commented on this post.  I knew I'd get a range of responses, and for those who actually have gone through this and those who have dealt with DS sibs/close family members, your insight has been valuable.  For those that question why, if I am anti-abortion myself, would I terminate, or even get tested, I agree it's a disconnect.  I am extremely type-A, and so I told myself I would want to know what was up prior to birth if there is going to be a life-altering disability.  That being said, my numbers for DC #1 were so great that I just kind of assumed that the number for #2 would be as well (and you know what they say about assuming).  It's only once the results came back that this abhorrent thought (abhorrent to me) started to come up.  And while I am against abortion for myself, DH certainly is not.  Of course he recognizes we are equal partners, and it's not like he'd push me to terminate if I decided I couldn't, but he just doesn't feel the same way as I do.

I also agree that materniT21 isn't necessarily as clear-cut as CVS or amnio, and of course I will be getting one of those done if the blood test comes back positive.  I am just really struggling with this sudden change in what I thought was a firmly held belief.  It's been rocking my world, the thought that I could terminate if I got a positive DS result.  Again, those who shared their termination experiences as well as those who shared their life experiences (both positive and negative) with close family with DS have been really helpful.  DH actually has a cousin who has DS, and is often at family functions.  His parents are in their late 60's and still caring for him-he's in his late 30's.  I know that his parents, while they love him, also feel like it's taken a huge toll on their lives.  Do we want that?  Honestly I just don't know.

Lastly, I think the biggest thing I'm struggling with, besides the difficult realization that my abortion feelings have changed suddenly, is the fact that if we do go forward with this pregnancy, everything I've envisioned about "our family life"-vacations, holidays, day-to-day life-will be drastically different.  I will have to go forward with zero expectations, and that is very hard for me.  I know I am getting way ahead of myself and borrowing trouble, but that's what I do best, which is yet another reason why I am not sure it's a great idea for me to raise a DS child.

Ugh.  I will probably be loosing sleep for this until results come in next week.  Thanks to those who offered support...this has been a very good thread to read.  I am off to check out some blogs that were suggested earlier. [/quote]

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