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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] She's grieving, scared, and probably has not lived alone for a very long time if forever.  She asked her son to stay longer. Not to live with her, but to stay a while.  Why are you attacking her for that?  I understand gently saying no, but your post is really horrible.  [/quote]

You're ignoring so much of what op posted. It's kind of dishonest.

Clearly mil wants nothing or little to do with her son's family and does not view them as family. Who does this? Think about that. That is screwed up. [/quote]

If OP has problems with her MIl’s behavior towards her children, then the time to bring that up is literally anytime other than while her FIL was dying or the immediate grief period after his death.

But right now, that is irrelevant.  Right now what is relevant is that in the first couple months after an elderly person is widowed it is not unusual for them to be fearful be being alone, or to ask for things that would be unreasonable at any other time.  Responding with anger rather than compassion (and OP’s DH can compassionately say “I wish I could do that, but I need to be back home for work.  What can we get set up to help?”) is cruel.
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