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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]52 woman here. Good body, very confident, masculine. [b]Take charge. [/b][/quote]

Take charge of life generally.  Look around at what needs to be done and take care of it.  Make the dinner reservations, book the babysitter, make the meal plan and order the groceries.  Notice the sheets need changing and take care of that.  Book the vacation for the family.  [/quote]

Yes, amen. I do literally all of this, and I'm tired of it. [/quote]

Plus, the lack of initiative or opinions from my DH saps my desire. I'd be much more turned on by, "Let's go to [restaurant] on Friday. I'll make a reservation. And how about a drink first at [bar]?" It has been YEARS since my husband has made a plan. [/quote]

That would be so amazing!
I have an acquaintance (kids friends mom) who dropped that she and her husband were going alone for a long weekend. “Where are you going?” “Somewhere in Mexico.” “You’re leaving in two days and you don’t know where you’re going?” “Some resort I guess. My husband books these things. I’m just along for the ride. It always ends up being fun.” I was so freaking envious I could have thrown something.[/quote]

Why?  What is the big deal about planning a trip?  That’s the most fun part.

Some of you just want to be pissed off at your husbands.[/quote]

That’s like saying what’s the big deal about cooking dinner every night? Cooking is fun.
The answer is that I’m sick of it. I’m sick of finding somewhere fun for our family to go every year and figuring out what to do when we get there. There must be somewhere on Gods green earth that interests him enough to plan one single trip. But it doesn’t seem so. I left one year totally up to him. and we went nowhere.[/quote]

If you’re sick of planning travel, and he doesn’t want to do it, then just don’t travel.  Or spend the extra money to have something pre-planned. Many husbands are like this.  Mine could not really plan a nice trip, it’s just not in his wheelhouse.

But you’re linking sex with something neither of you wants to do, then you’re just ruining sex too.

A lot of marriages have continual conflicts and stuck points that don’t really ever resolve.  If you hinge your sexual life on those conflicts then you will ruin your sex life.[/quote]

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