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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the cause of the dead bedroom.
My husband is smart, funny, sexy, and I love him.
But I’m 52 with ZERO sex drive. There is no turning me on. There is no orgasm. I’ve been like this for a few years. I have thought about HRT and am on the fence about starting it as there are many risks.
We have sex every other week, sometimes more often. Only because I feel obligated to, not because I enjoy it because I don’t. 
I would love to have the sex drive I had in my 30s. 
I don’t know what the solution is. Men can get viagra but women have no options that don’t carry significant risks. 
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Doesn’t that make it worse though? I feel like when I force myself to out of obligation/expectation I feel so horrible I feel even less in the mood than ever. The “fake it til you make it” thing just doesn’t work for me. If I was the PP’s wife I think I would have suggested a hall pass or just having sex on demand and feeling awful until I could live with losing my kids 50 percent of the time. [/quote]

The only thing that helps at all is 
1) taking care of myself so I feel attractive (easier said than done- I used to be really pretty and I am aware I will never look that good again) 
2) getting enough sleep 
3) reading romance novels that are not terribly explicit but enough to remind me what fun sex can at least in theory be.

And then my husband had to make it through the day without yelling too badly at our kids. When he is a jerk to the kids I am so disgusted by him I absolutely can’t have sex. [/quote]. Why did you raise your kids to be such undisciplined brats?  Are you a progressive?  There's another thread on here with a mom whinging about her useless almost 18 year old daughter.  Is that what you want?[/quote]

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