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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I haven’t seen you answer the questions about whether his biological mom will be there or any members of that part of his family. You’re also not explaining WHY your stepson aka your son is making this a test of some kind. What exactly is he texting, and what’s the history behind that?[/quote]

Op, also haven’t seen you answer the question as to whether when insisting on everyone’s presence for his ceremony your stepson is equally emphatic that he also plans attend his sister’s graduation the next day.

Clearly the travel logistics make this  impractical/potentially unfeasible (and either way you and dd should definitely not travel) but this point is telling as to whether he’s just a little out of touch with reality or a complete narcissist.[/quote]

I don't think he's a complete narcissist. I do think he's a little immature, and, what I've noticed is that he majorly regresses when interacting with his sister. I don't think this is so unusual, but it's like he steps in the door and regresses a decade. But yes, he thinks his graduation should be prioritized. [b]That's why I think dropping this for a while is smart. There's too much to argue about at this time[/b]. What if the ceremony is an hour earlier next year? What if flight schedules change?

[b]At the end of the day, I'm hoping with time both he and his father will realize how unfair  it would be for his sister to miss/risk her graduation. [/b]

I kind of love the watch party idea.
I'm going to keep that in my pocket. With a stadium event, you are pretty much watching a screen anyhow! [/quote]
From what you’ve described I don’t know where you are finding hope that SS and DH are going to suddenly get it. You don’t need to argue but you absolutely need to set the expectation that DD will attend all her events and you will attend her graduation. You need to make this really clear for DD. Don’t leave her in the position of having to answer to any of this. [/quote]

Well, I'm not sure what else to do. I think, when presented with the reality of flight schedules, DH will come around. He's the sort that travels overseas with 2 months of planning and just takes crazy connections and stays wherever to make it work. Whereas I'm the type who plans 14 months in advance, saves up credit card points to grab cheap tickets and then grabs exactly what I want 11 months out. So to him, yeah, this is way too early to be thinking about it

And I did leave it with my position pretty clear. We've just skated perilously close to the "let DD decide" the last time it came up, and no good can come of that. My position couldn't be clearer. I said it didn't look possible, and I wasn't going to discuss flight logistics when it was too early to even look at flights, but as things stood, it was not reasonable. (Please, please frontier just drop the 10pm flight and then we will move to actually impossible!)[/quote]

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