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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a blanket statement, no.  Some students have parents who are working 2 jobs, or are in foster care, and they should absolutely not be penalized for not having basically a SAHP who can volunteer 10 hours a week or a rich parent who can fund the entire PTA.

If we are allowed nuance- I do think that if a parent is an unusually helpful volunteer, or takes on volunteer tasks that one one wants (everyone wants to chaperone the cute half day field trip with their child, no one wants to volunteer to mop the cafeteria floors and take all the trash to the dump after the school carnival ends at 9pm), it should not be frowned upon if that kid's family maybe gets picked to run the most fun carnival booth, or maybe [b]if a parent volunteers to be the backstage mom at a drama club performance- therefore not getting to watch her child perform, since she's backstage, this is a classic job that no one signs up for ever in our school's drama club- then that student's family (the other parent, etc) gets front row seats to the performance and a free copy of the DVD recording[/b] to show to the backstage mom afterwords.[/quote]

So if you miss your kids performing because you have time to volunteer, you should get preferential treatment but if you have to earn money and miss it, tough.

That is pretty gross classism [/quote]

It's because she VOLUNTEERED to miss her kid's performance in order to help the show go on.  I am completely fine with that.  Like how airlines offer you a few hundred bucks to give up your seat and take a different flight later in the day if they're overbooked.  [/quote]

Because people like that volunteer, your kid gets to be in the play, musical, performance, whatever. There is zero acknowledgment or gratitude from people like you. Your kid gets the experience and you don't have to do a thing and then you want to begrudge a small perk or token of gratitude from others? Sounds pretty selfish.

She VOLUNTEERED because she has the resources to do so. No job/flexible job. I don’t think we should give people with more resources more perks, as they have plenty already. [/quote][/quote]

Dude - she has MORE RESOURCES because she worked hard all her life to create these resources for herself and her family.

A well-to-do mom in DMV with flex job/no job who is able to prioritize her kids was probably that good student in HS who was busting her ass studying Calc in HS instead of giving BJs to the loser behind the bleachers. Her high SES, her marriage, her 2 kids, her cleaning lady, her education, her net worth, her involvement with PTA, school theatre, kids EC activities...she has earned it all.

You have to pay the piper. [/quote]

For what it's worth- I'm the poster discussing being the backstage mom at drama club (and for 3 years running I have volunteered backstage during the performance because no one else wants to, I'm good at it, and I don't mind giving back in this way because it's something that really really needs to be done.  I get a chance to see my kid(s) from the wings during their (always quite small) parts and I'm ok with that.  I am also fully aware that the reason I did well in HS and college and have a flex part time job that still pays 6 figures, and a nice husband who makes more than me, is because I was born into a family that had that same situation and they paid for my entire education and gave me a down payment on my house.  I am not the one blaming people for not having time and money.  If I were giving BJs behind the bleachers in HS I'd probably still be doing fine because my parents were rich.  So no, the moms who can't volunteer because they are stuck at work for 14 hours a day cleaning houses are not lazier or worse than me, and I'd be happy to burn them a copy of my free performance DVD if I asked.  The moms who are in the same situation as I am, but who don't want to help out backstage because they want to watch their kid from front and center, and then have the balls to get annoyed that the front and center rows already have my jacket draped across them to reserve them for my husband and parents since I got here 3 hours before the show started to start helping set up the stage- they can move along. [/quote]

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