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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Took awhile to catch up.

1) what feeder school is this? We currently go to a feeder school (unconnected family) and our PSD only asked us to give her the list of schools we plan on applying to. Never did she say which ones we should and shouldn’t consider. The only caveats she mentioned were schools she knew had a lot of legacy and siblings applying.

2) many have mentioned this but the most important thing is a child’s social-emotional maturity and less about how academic they are.

3) I have a late August bday girl. We went ahead applied last year for K and of course was told “too young” to all the schools we were most interested in (one liked her and probably would of accepted her but we weren’t a fan of the school). Our PSD didn’t tell us we had to red shirt our daughter and was totally supportive when we wanted to try to apply anyway. We were essentially red shirted by the ongoing schools not our preschool.

4) My daughter got in to our first choice TT SS school for this coming year. I am happy she had another year in PreK, she’s grown so much and is learning so fast and I have no worries she won’t excel both academically and socially.

5) I feel like NYC is this weird “bubble” where parents and caregivers think their child needs to read and write by 3/4 and be efficient in math by 4/5 (multiplication, addition, subtraction etc). It’s not like this across the country or even the world. Scandinavia leads in education outcomes and they do not push academics or homework until about grade 4. All this to say is that the cut off for public school in NYC is extraordinarily late compared to many other places.

6) if you feel strongly your child needs a more academic setting and would be unhappy if red shirted by ongoing schools, you should look in to public school. Of anything you can do public school K for one year and have her possibly repeat K in private (that’s if they feel she isn’t 1st grade ready). I know a few kids who did this. 
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1. Our school didn't say "don't apply" but when we mentioned applying to Riverdale and Dalton, they immediately said they didn't think it would be a good fit. I don't want to mention which school it is for privacy.

2. Totally understand on the SEL component but I just don't see what they see in school, so the feedback came as a bit of a surprise.

3. We're not trying to make our kid do anything academic, it genuinely has been self-motivated by her. She's not "gifted" or anything but she's very curious and asks A LOT of questions at home so we were surprised to hear that she wasn't engaging in school, and we're now not sure it's the right environment for her.

4/5. Our Pre-K does let us repeat a year but because of the concerns I mentioned I'm not enthused by the idea of her doing an extra year there. We're considering applying her to Pre-K through 12 schools for 2027 but I know those are pretty competitive too. I really don't want her to go to public school and then switch her out again to private in 2028, that's three different schools in three years which is a lot of instability for a kid her age.

We will most likely just pick a good school zone and stick with private for elementary. [/quote]

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