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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Either way - how is it for you as a parent? Any way you fill ill-equipped? Or no big deal?[/quote]

We are equal in looks, popularity, etc.  we are VERY different in ambition and drive.  I have it coming out of my ears since birth.  I was the 2 year old who potty trained myself and against my parents advice went for the PhD and insisted on a spouse that had the same.  My kid is very gifted and can do so much - but she’d rather sit around and whine.  Yes, I fundamentally don’t get it.  I’m so ill equipped to deal with it. She is also model gorgeous and lacks people skills so struggles socially.  I struggled some socially too, but I was able to have a solid group of friends and a high school boyfriend.  DD goes for the “kids who won’t reject her” - basically kids who want to use her, use drugs, or have other severe social problems.

OP - to answer your question- I am so ill equipped.  I keep trying and failing ever day.  I won’t give up, but I’m not winning any parenting awards.[/quote]

From the bit you wrote you are clearly a person who is totally and completely self controlled, which is good but people like you and somewhat speak from experience drive yourself hard and in doing so drive others away. Not being able to see your own toxicity may be your biggest weakness

Your daughter doesn’t want to be like you, so she’s doing the opposite, send her to a nice boarding school where she can experience life outside of your toxic reach.

Having good genes and bestowing them upon your offspring in the belief that they will be, a mini 2.0 you, is kind of narcissistic and that is damaging all around..

Send her off and if you are lucky she will be okay, she may never come home again but maybe she’ll be happier and more well adjusted, she was never yours to keep anyway.[/quote]

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