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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Either way - how is it for you as a parent? Any way you fill ill-equipped? Or no big deal?[/quote]

We are equal in looks, popularity, etc.  we are VERY different in ambition and drive.  I have it coming out of my ears since birth.  I was the 2 year old who potty trained myself and against my parents advice went for the PhD and insisted on a spouse that had the same.  My kid is very gifted and can do so much - but she’d rather sit around and whine.  Yes, I fundamentally don’t get it.  I’m so ill equipped to deal with it. She is also model gorgeous and lacks people skills so struggles socially.  I struggled some socially too, but I was able to have a solid group of friends and a high school boyfriend.  DD goes for the “kids who won’t reject her” - basically kids who want to use her, use drugs, or have other severe social problems.

OP - to answer your question- I am so ill equipped.  I keep trying and failing ever day.  I won’t give up, but I’m not winning any parenting awards.[/quote]

Stop trying to make her just like you.  Most students are not interested in obtaining a PhD so drop that, nobody cares.[b]  Stop calling your kid gifted.  What does that even mean?  [/b]

There are plenty of people walking around that are smarter than you but are chill, work at average jobs, have average lives and are happy.  Not everyone wants to live like you accept that she might want her own life.   And the reason she’s with socially awkward kids is because she’s one of them.  Hopefully she has activities that keep her busy. [/quote]

Her IQ is 152 and she’s in specialized school - that’s what I mean.

Yes tons of people smarter than me - my husband for starters but also many of my colleagues and my own daughter. I never said I was the smartest.  I have a PhD and that was probably more driven by ambition, which is what I stated.  My life is pretty average and I’m ok with that.  I want my daughter to be happy and surrounded by friends who care about her and have a career she enjoys.

I think it’s you that needs to chill.  I know you are trying to be mean to me by criticizing me, but you missed this part - I love who I am and my daughter - seriously I want the best for her.  What happened to you to make you this way?[/quote]

How can she be in an advanced school and just around and whine?  Why are you so critical of her friends?  Sometimes the parent doesn’t realize that they have a problem accepting that their child is not some phenom like they hoped.  She’s in a special school, she has friends.  Why criticize her?  [/quote]

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