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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not OP here.  I keep reading comments like "This is just criticism, not abuse" and "Maybe they're offering feedback because they love you."  There's a huge difference between constructive, helpful criticism and venom / mockery.  If you could hear the hostility in my mother's voice when she attacks, you'd dread being around her as much as I do.  If you've never had a parent wash dishes at you or fold clothes at you angrily, well, this sentence won't make sense to you at all and I envy you.[/quote]

I think some of it is that we've normalized this type of behavior from the boomer and silent generations.  My mom used to yell at us and lose her temper ver really minor stuff all the time- it wasn't until I was an adult that I really reflected on how no, this isn't how you should treat your kids.  But I went away for college and never moved back to our hometown, so being able to keep her behavior at arms length means that it doesn't affect me as much compared to my sibling who still lives there.  But I also have some empathy for my mom because it's not like people are just born this way, it's typically learned behavior.

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