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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are multiple cultures and religions in which it’s common for the daughters to live at home with their parents (not even attend college and work like your daughter is doing) until they meet a man to marry. I’m not sure why you’re acting like this is the end of the world or some alien concept.

Given her clear enthusiasm for marriage, you should honestly just be glad that she has shown some restraint by not running off and eloping as soon as she turned 18. I’ve heard those stories, too.[/quote]

which cultures are these?  I am a Pakistani, my mother would've made me stay home if I had refused to wear a hijab so very very conservative but she would've also blown a gasket and insisted I got to college AND dress modestly!  we have  arranged marriages and anyone who doesn't go to college and doesnt have 'goals' is considered a loser and no-one would want their son to marry them. it doesn't matter if they never work or are not allowed to work after the marriage- if they are like I just want to get married beforehand and stop at high school they would be considered too  stupid, lazy and undisciplined to run a household and raise kids.  running a functioning household and raising kids is difficult- just being a "soft girl' isn't going to cut it.  you aren't a prostitute- you are going to be a mother which is requires ingenuity and smarts! an accounting a math degree might actually be great if AI doesnt take all the jobs, can be vey flexible so you an focus on running your home.  in. most conservative cultures you are supposed to have a life and then when you get married you make sacrifices to run your household efficiently and your spouse makes sacrifices to pay for everything.

OP youshoudl be guiding your daughter in what traits she should look for in a partner and how to structure her life. teach her skills that she will need or want - get her some home making skill books and practice teh stuff, that way you will remain close. teach her your family recipes.  [/quote]

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