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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems op is gone.  Troll post?  I sure hope so.[/quote]

No. She still refused to pack all day, so I packed for her. I think calling someone to try to persuade her to go would help if she still refuses to physically leave. She would definitely be ashamed and embarrassed. We have close family in Italy, so we visit in Italy often, which is why she doesn’t want to go.[/quote]

Oooh. We have relatives in a foreign country and it was around this age that I started trying very hard to get out of the annual trip. When I was 15 I was so unpleasant that my mom started planning the trip without me and just taking my brother when I was away at camp for part of the summer. I absolutely hated that trip -- we spent so much time in other people's living rooms, listening to relatives I barely knew talk about the war. No kids my age, nothing to do. There could have been ways to make that trip more interesting for a teen -- such as giving me a chance to go somewhere on my own, seeing if the relatives knew any kids my age, etc. I know that I should not have been such a b---h to my parents about it and I knew that at the time, but nobody would listen to me. I wasn't 8 years old but the trip repeated itself each year as if I never got any older.

I do not agree with your kid's behavior, of course, but if you get an opening, really try to listen about what is bothering her about the trip. Can you give her some freedom while she is there? Let her take a train somewhere, do something a little different? [b]Europe is safer than here anyway.[/b] [/quote]

Another dumb American. Europe is NOT safer than America, and certainly NOT for a 14 year old girl going places by herself. What sort of blithering idiot are you?

I agree that OP should find ways to make this trip more bearable for her teen. But unless she knows the area like the back of her hand and speak without accent, no I would not leave her to fend for herself. I took the Paris metro by myself at 12 to get to and from school. But I lived there. OP's kid does not live where her relatives are.
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My goodness. So much anger there, my friend! Dumb American? Blithering idiot? Chill out. Taking a metro by yourself at the old age of 12 is not a flex, by the way. [/quote]

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